Wow – its been over 6 months since the birth of Elijah and I still haven’t written my birth story! Crazy! Having 2 kids is no joke. It’s more work than anyone can imagine but it’s worth every minute of chaos. I finally got like 10 minutes in my life to sit down and write this so here goes….
First I’d like to say that I am SOOOO happy I got my home and water birth, I always wanted. I wanted it with Ezra and due to certain circumstances I was not able to. ( you can find Ezra’s birth story here on my blog).
This pregnancy was seriously such a drag, every single day. To have a safe home birth the midwives want you to be at least 37 weeks so as soon as I hit that mark, everyday when I woke up in the middle of the night, I wondered, is this it? Is this it?…..nope. Not until 39 weeks and 1 day ( one day later than my last pregnancy) did Elijah decide to make his debut.
I woke up at 3:45am for my usual bathroom run and when I opened my eyes I for sure said to myself, this is really it. It’s happening today I just know. Sure enough, the moment a stood up, it was a gush of water! Like a crazy gush, not like the tinkling down the leg like I had the first time, it was like spraying out. So I made it to the bathroom, called my midwife, I had no contractions yet, she told me to try to go back to sleep and rest because I was going to need it. I tried to go back to bed and relax but then contractions started 15 minutes later, 6 minutes apart and I was trembling so I decided to call her back, meanwhile I woke up my husband as my toddler continued to sleep in our bed and he got up and started to get the tub ready. When I called her back and told her I couldn’t rest because my contractions started, she told me to go and eat some breakfast before it was too late. I went down to make breakfast and then the contractions got a little stronger. It had only been 15 minutes since I last spoke to the midwife so I called her back and told her my contractions were still 6 minutes apart but they were starting to hurt and she said I still sounded very chatty so to keep her posted. I reminded her my first birth was only 6 hours and that she shouldn’t wait too long to leave. For some reason when I was on the phone with her my contractions subsided for like a good 10 minutes and then as soon as I got off the phone, they came back instantly.
Since I still had 6 minutes in-between I figured this would be a good time to wake up my mother in law and move my toddler into the furthest guest room so he can continue sleeping with her. I was worried he’d wake up and be confused since he had never woken up next to anyone besides me or my husband before but it’s something that I couldn’t worry about anymore. The contractions were still 6 min apart and getting very intense. I could not find a good position to help me relax. Nothing I was taught in my birth classes was helping me at all. The only thing I could think of was sitting on the toilet which naturally relaxes you, so that’s what I did.
At this point I have really no concept of time but I believe it was around 5:30am when things started to get really crazy and I just couldn’t handle the pain anymore. The contractions were about 4 minutes apart now and I sat on the toilet for a good while before I felt like pushing, I already had started to push on the toilet. My midwife was on the way and she called my husband and told him to get me off the toilet even if he had to drag me because otherwise that’s where the baby would be coming out. So in- between I ran onto my bed, it was so difficult because the baby was so low already. I ended up laying in bed side ways pushing but trying to hold the baby in at the same time. Honestly, if I had gone in the tub at that point, I think he would have come out but the midwife doesn’t want you to get into the tub with out her since it speeds up the process and she obviously wanted to be there and so did I. The midwife stayed with me on speaker the rest of the time until she arrived. She ran up into my bedroom and told me he was crowning so now I had to make it over to the tub.
As soon as I got inside the tub it was like someone gave me a drug. They say that water birth is really a great way to manage pain and let me tell you, it felt amazing. It was like my whole entire body relaxed. I was in there for a good 10 minutes and then pushed the baby right out. I had so much more control over my breathing which allowed me to control the pushing, I was trying really not to tear. It was AMAZING, I did it. I really had this baby in the water at home like I have always wanted.
The best part of being home is no hospital chaos. I was in MY bed and I could just relax and sleep and enjoy the baby and nurse. The midwives stay and help clean up and do all their checks and they come back the next day to check on you as well.
My water baby – Elijah Dos Santos Membreno born at 6:40am at 8lbs exactly and 21 inches long.
My recovery was fine, a little more difficult than the first, only because my hips really got messed up this time around so I was very weak until I went to the chiropractor a few times to get adjusted and that really helped. I’m still dealing with a little hip pain here and there even now at 6 months PP but I would do it all over again if I had to. Although this time my labor would probably. be like an hour lol so there would be no diddle daddling! 🙂
Also – I was so worried about my oldest waking up from all the noise and he and my mother in law slept right through everything! Lol! they woke up at 7:30am and asked how I was holding up and My husband said I had the baby at 6:45am! They had no clue! It really worked out great.
I know people probably think I’m crazy but birth is a natural thing. God made us able to do this naturally without drugs or intervention. We CAN do it. It’s a miracle.
Thanks all for stopping by! Hopefully I can start posting more again soon. Life has been so crazy these days!