Sorry, it’s been a while……
I finally hit 34 weeks today which technically means I have 3 weeks left until I reach 37 weeks and can have a fully cooked baby! EEEEK! He’s almost here! I know most first time moms come late so I am prepared for that even though my whole family thinks he will be here early. Let’s see, only God knows. 🙂
This past Monday, I finished my birth classes which I really enjoyed. I learned so much. I really feel prepared now, mentally and physically I think. 🙂 We all have a birth plan and we want it to go as planned, but I learned that we have to be opened minded because anything can happen so we shouldn’t over think it. My birth plan is to have a home water birth with the Midwives of NJ. It’s what I’ve always wanted, but I am open to what may happen. Maybe I won’t have the baby in the actual tub and that’s ok. The reason for me choosing a home birth is because, first, I don’t like hospitals, and second, when you’re in the hospital there is more of a chance of intervention. Having a midwife though actually really helps because they do become your advocate and they discuss everything with you prior to making “that” decision. You can still have a natural water birth or non water birth in the hospital with a midwife. (They basically replace your OBGYN.) Some people are not very familiar with how they work but I will say, it has been a great experience thus far. There is a lot more care involved, they are precautious with everything, they worry about your health and your baby’s health and most importantly they are there for you. The cool part is that most insurances cover home birth and midwives as your care providers which most people don’t realize. AND it’s so much more affordable believe it or not.
If you live in NJ and you’re interested in checking them out, go to www.midwivesofNJ.com to learn more! It’s worth taking a glance.
I know most people freak out when you say you’re having a home birth, but I honestly don’t let it get to me. If you educate yourself on the process of home birth and how safe it really is, you wouldn’t think it’s a bad idea. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, just like some women go straight to a C- section as their first choice because they think its better because they don’t feel the pain. To me, that sounds more scary than a natural birth so like I said, everyone feels a certain way and that’s ok. You have to do what’s best for you and it’s not fair to judge others because of it. It doesn’t make you a bad mom or a better mom, depending on what type of birth you have. The most important thing is that you get the baby out safely.
If you’re looking for some resources on natural home birth or water birth, the main thing that made me want to do a home birth was watching the documentary called: The Business of Being Born. Even if you’re totally against home birth you should really watch it. It is a great educational film. It really opened my eyes to the way this country treats women and their right to birth. I mean, you already know we’re like the only country in the world that doesn’t have industrialized paid maternity leave and if your job offers maternity leave, you’re lucky to even get a part of your salary AND you’re even more lucky if it’s longer than 6 weeks. That already says a lot about how women are treated here so think about it in the birth aspect too. You have to educate yourself and do your own research– it’s out there and it’s worth learning about.
It’s so funny because this is obviously my first time being pregnant and people are constantly trying to give you advice and it’s totally normal and some of it is great but most of it is annoying and unnecessary. We’ve all been there. I for one have done plenty of research on EVERYTHING from pregnancy, to labor, to birth, to having the baby the first year and breast feeding, and on how to properly latch your baby, different positions for better latching….etc. I know my shit. Pardon my french. I really do, so before you assume things and get all crazy telling me how I shouldn’t do this or that, calm down.
I’m not saying I know everything because I definitely don’t, but I think I know a lot more than I probably should at this point. That being said, what works for one baby may not work for another and vice versa so no matter how much knowledge you have, it doesn’t even matter because it might not even work for me or you. What I love about social media these days though is that there are so many mommy groups and forums that you can have open discussions about your issues and concerns which is really helpful for many women and I love that! It’s nice to feel we are not alone.
I hope that no one takes any of this the wrong way, you know I like to put it all out there. The point is that you have the right to do what you believe is best for you and your baby and sometimes some moms make other moms feel bad about their decisions and second guess themselves and I feel like that’s not fair. I have so many friends who have told me, so and so told me this and now I am not sure what to do. Well, my answer is, do what you think is best to do and if you like the other person’s recommendation do some research on it and maybe it will change your mind and if you still feel strongly about your decision then don’t feel bad…just do it. I can’t tell you how many people have actually tried to scare me about home birth. It’s horrible, stop it. Don’t do that to anyone, it’s mean. No matter how strongly you feel about it, it’s not fair to make someone feel like they are making the wrong decision. It’s all in God’s hands. He is our creator and he has blessed us with these wonderful babies and he made women’s bodies capable of giving birth. We are MADE to do this, so we CAN do this. So let’s DO this together and not bring each other down!
Well, hopefully this was interesting to you and if anyone has had a home birth, I’d love to hear about it! Hopefully next time I update I will have my maternity shoot pictures up! I am so excited about them–can’t wait to share them with you!
Hey all! So here I am, 31 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I have 8 weeks and 2 days left! It’s beginning to all feel like a blur–just counting down the weeks, finishing up the nursery, getting all the shower gifts together, and organizing everything. The anticipation is starting to run through my veins. I am starting to get nervous, but I’m super excited to meet my baby Ezra. <3
In the last few weeks though there have been some ups and downs. If you’ve been pregnant you know that they have to test you for gestational diabetes and I don’t know why but I was really nervous about it. I took the first test, which typically you would fast after midnight until your blood test in the morning and they make you drink the yucky syrupy juice full of sugar and then they draw your blood. Luckily, my midwives didn’t make me drink that– they had me eat a specific breakfast: 2 pieces of toast w/butter, 2 eggs, 1/2 a cup of orange juice and 1 cup of milk. Then they drew my blood but I also still had to fast after midnight.
2 weeks later, right before 4th of July weekend, I got a call from my midwife telling me I failed the test by 2 points. 🙁 Needless to say, I was pretty bummed all weekend; filled with high emotions. When Monday finally came around, it was time to do my 2nd test. Those of you that don’t know, when you fail your first gestational diabetes test you have to take the famous 3 hour test which I will say is absolute torture. First, you have to fast from midnight on, and then when you arrive they draw your blood right away. Then they make you drink that nasty syrupy juice that I was lucky to avoid the first time. It tastes like Kool Aide mixed with a gallon of sugar–so sweet it’s disgusting ESPECIALLY after not eating for 10 hours, that’s not the first thing you want to put in your mouth. From then on, they draw your blood every three hours. You feel your blood sugar peak and it makes you feel like you’re going to pass out because your heart is racing and you’re actually starving. Then as your sugar drops you feel queasy and nauseated but its almost over at that point. The good thing about this test is that it didn’t take 2 weeks to get my results like the last one, it only took about 2 days.
Finally, the day came and my midwife told me that I barely passed the test. Barely passing is still somewhat failing really. I mean it depends on how you look at it. Technically, according to my lab results I passed but according to my midwife she didn’t think it was something we could move on from and ignore. In this case to be safe, she thought it would still be a good idea to test my glucose levels everyday, 4xs a day while following a special diet. She said as long as my levels are normal on the regular I can continue as usual with a normal birth which ultimatley was the best news ever! I was so happy to hear that and I am doing everything possible to follow my diet restrictions to get the home birth I have always wanted.
Some background on gestational diabetes: If you are diagnosed with gestational diabetes you run the risk of preterm labor and having to be induced. Also, your placenta can die and obviously it would prevent you from being able to provide nutrients for your baby and there are a lot of other very sad things that can happen so it’s EXTREMELY important that you follow these restrictions because its the safest thing for you and the baby. It might be annoying at first, but the end result is a safe pregnancy and a safe baby coming into this world. Even though I technically don’t have gestational diabetes I am acting as if I do to ultimately be at my healthiest safest level of pregnancy.
I’d like to hear about some other experiences with gestational diabetes or “barely passing” gestational diabetes. How did you feel? Were you as scared as I was? I hope that sharing my experience would shed some light on some people and help you cope. It’s definitely not easy, just another thing to add to your pregnancy stress for sure but focus on the end goal! 🙂 You can make it through!
Other than that, everything else has been great, besides the typical heart burn, gas, clumsiness, forgetfulness, restless leg syndrome, waking up in the middle of the night, peeing every 1/2 hour, swelling and moodiness. 🙂 Life is good.
This past Sunday was my Super Mario Bros. themed baby shower and it sure was a huge success! Most people like their shower to be a surprise and have nothing to do with the planning but not I! Of course me being the control freak that I am, I had to be involved. I couldn’t do much myself since I am not the craftiest of people, but I have great ideas and can help execute them. I also have many talented friends who are awesome at doing all types of things from graphic design, baking, making things, and they are just really crafty. Needless to say, thank God for Pinterest, which helped us all gather ideas and make it happen. I’m still mad about not having Pinterest for my wedding 5 years ago, ugh I could have really used it to organize my ideas. Bummer! Well, at least I have it now, and I’ll be able to use it for all the fun events I’ll be planning moving forward.
Anyways, on to the shower. I picked Super Mario because my husband is huge Nintendo fan, and he loves all the classics. I figured since we are having a boy, why not represent something that my husband loves? Ok, fine, I love it too!! hehe!
I hope you enjoy my pictures, but before you do I’d like to give credit where credit is due to all the wonderful people who helped put everything together. There is no special order but of course I’d like to thank my parents especially my mom, my sister Suzelle Marques, and my amazing friends Magen English, Diana Bartz, Linda Nguyen, and last but not least my husband for just dealing with all the craziness and keeping me sane (well, as sane as possible).
Everything in these pictures were made by us. We did not buy anything made or pay anyone to do anything except the cake. My cake was made by JLow Cakes and you can follow her on Facebook. She did an amazing job and it tasted amazing as well!
This is where they say it gets more difficult, in the 3rd trimester, and it ain’t no joke. All of a sudden from night to day my energy is low, I have more acid reflux, I can’t sleep as well, I wake up to go pee in the middle of the night, I am uncomfortable, my legs hurt, my veins are popping out on my legs, and talk about being super clumsy! I feel like everything I touch, I drop on the floor, and I can’t even bend over to pick it up. -___- I’m like, forget it, I didn’t need that anyway.
Besides all this, the only thing keeping me going is that I have a beautiful baby boy coming and I am so excited to meet him! I just wish we could fast forward time a little because I’m kinda over it. I’m getting bigger by the minute and the center of gravity is shifting.
I haven’t been updating as much because I’ve had some rough weeks. My hormones have been acting up again, so I have been a little moody lately, and feeling really tired so not that much has been going on. On top of all of this though, I have been helping plan my baby shower which is THIS weekend! Whoo hoo! Finally! I know I know, people think I’m crazy for being involved in my shower planning, but I am a control freak and I want what I want 🙂 I can’t help it. I can’t wait to show you how everything turns out! We’re doing the big name reveal too!! Lots of exciting things going on! I am so grateful to have an amazing family and friends to help me with everything. We have such an array of talent mixed within all of us and we put it to good use all together! I love you, you know who you are.
I think that’s all for now, but I hope you’re excited as I am to see how my baby shower turns out! I will put up a ton of pictures, and I’ll give you all the play by play next week! Stay tuned! Love ya!
#1 Tip – STAY HYDRATED! – I can’t express how important this is! It was so hard to drink enough water especially when you’re on the road and sight seeing all day or going for long drives and then you have to pee every half hour. But, you have to drink and drink and DRINK!! The car rides there are pretty bumpy because there are a lot of dirt roads, so it made it a little worse for me since it felt like my bladder was going to burst every time we hit a bump. There were 1 or 2 days where I definitely didn’t drink enough water, and I started to feel nauseas like I was going to pass out. SO DRINK!
(I was drinking fresh papaya juice here, something cold and refreshing! While sweating my tushy off!)
#2 Tip – WEAR LOOSE CLOTHING! – This is something we don’t usually think about. If you’re going to a hot place you would probably wear shorts or a dress so you’re comfortable and those are good options. Even a maxi dress is fine as long as it’s loose. The one day I wore jeans, I didn’t think anything of it– jeans and tank top. That was the day I almost passed out. I felt like I was suffocating. It was extremely uncomfortable. Culturally in Nicaragua it’s very common for people to wear jeans on the daily to work or to go out. I guess they are used it because I couldn’t. I was kicking myself all day because I couldn’t even change. In general, loose fitting clothing is more comfortable for anyone, but especially when it’s hot.
#3 Tip – DON’T TRY NEW FOODS! – OK, this may seem weird, BUT if you’re pregnant and traveling, I wouldn’t recommend trying new foods. Sometimes it may be tempting but remember, if you’re in a different country, it might not be a good idea. If you were to get sick, I don’t think going to a local hospital there would be very comforting since you would be unfamiliar with their ways. Also, you can get an upset stomach or even diarrhea. Neither of those are fun when you’re traveling so try to be careful and make sure everything is clean. While I was in Nicaragua I had unpasteurized cheese ( I know! Big no no! ). I actually didn’t realize it was unpasteurized until the 3rd day, and I had been eating it every day. This wasn’t something new for me since I have been there several times so I didn’t think about it– I just ate it. When I realized it was unpasteurized, I started freaking out. The good news was I was eating it fried, yes fried cheese, yummy! So all the bacteria would have been dead, except for one night I had it raw. BUT it’s a very hard cheese, not soft. The no no is usually for unpasteurized soft cheeses. Luckily, everything turned out ok, but it does happen. Especially, with pregnancy brain and all. 🙂
#4 Tip – DON’T OVER PACK! – This is important because overpacking can cause you to strain yourself at the airport. There’s a lot of walking in the airport and if you’re traveling solo like I did when I went to Florida for work, it can be really hard to carry your things. I packed one large suitcase for the week and I didn’t pack a carry on bag because I didn’t want to carry extra things, but I felt like my luggage bag was just too heavy for me to carry on my own. I should have opted for a smaller suitcase. You live and you learn. When I went to Nicaragua, we brought a large suitcase each, but my husband was there to help me so it was much better. If you’re flying solo, the smaller the bag the better. OH! And ,backpacks are my best friend while traveling instead of a purse. It can carry whatever you need on the plane; laptops, tablets, cameras, makeup, magazines….etc. You’d be surprised how many things I fit in mine! And then for while you’re out and about, it’s perfect too! No purse necessary!
#5 Tip – OVERLOAD ON VITAMINS C & D! – OK, last but not least, take your vitamins! Everyone is more susceptible to getting sick while traveling especially on the plane being next to someone who is sick or coughing or breathing on you, yughhh! Keeping germs to yourself isn’t easy. So the week before you go, load up your vitamins C & D! Take double and then triple 2 days before and the day of. While you are out there, keep taking your vitamins too. You need to rev up your immune system so it can combat any germs you may encounter while you’re traveling. It’s extremely important for you and the baby not to get sick because medication is a big no no! I recommend this for anyone, but especially if you’re preggers. I had my husband do the same thing this time around because he ALWAYS gets sick and guess what? He’s a healthy man! 🙂
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I lost my ankles! Has anybody seen them? Because I for sure can’t see them. I’m not even talking about my belly blocking my feet, I can’t see them because they’re so darn swollen! Have any of you experienced swollen ankles and feet? Or even swollen hands and face? Apparently this is completely normal in your 6th month of pregnancy. What I’m most concerned about is that I am only 6 months and that it’s actually going to get worse! Especially because the next 3 months in Jersey are the hottest!! 😁😁 Yikes!
Well, I already said goodbye to all my beautiful shoes. 🙁 I tried wearing flats the other day and it looked liked a shoved a sausage in there. No Bueno.
Good thing my besties bought me some Birkenstocks for my birthday because I’ll definitely be living in those for the next few months and flip flops too.
Oh well, let’s just hope my feet go back to normal afterwards! I really miss my beautiful shoes. 😫
Hi all! I know its been quite a while since my last post. The last time I posted, I announced we were having a baby boy and right after that I headed out to Fort Lauderdale for work. I will say, having traveled for work in the past I have always enjoyed it and I thought it would be the same but boy was I wrong. It was an emotional roller coaster. I pretty much cried almost everyday I was there. 🙁 It was so sad. I never felt so sad to be away from my husband and my doxie. Some people say when your pregnant your hormones make you go nuts and you get into fights with your spouse but I’ve been feeling the total opposite. I feel more connected to him and I want to be closer to him and spend more time with him so to leave for a week was torture. Needless to say, I survived lol ….I was sure glad be home.
Fast forward a week, it was Mother’s Day……
Fast forward another week and it was my birthday. I turned 31 on May 16th, I really can’t believe it. I felt like my 30th birthday was just a few months ago and now I’m over the hump. I feel truly blessed this year to be pregnant with my little one, its the best gift God can give you and I am truly thankful. My husband also got me the Kate Spade diaper bag I asked for so that’s a plus! 🙂 Happy Birthday to me! Weeeeeeeee!!!
Check it out!
This past weekend we also took a short road trip to Wilmington, DE and Cape May, NJ. My husband wanted to take me for a little weekend getaway since we haven’t been on vacation since August and me being preggers and all has been difficult to get away. Here are some pictures from our trip.
So that’s what’s been keeping me busy these days. May is typically a busy month. I will try not to take too long in-between my posts again. That’s my 24 week update! I am feeling good, I am feeling happy and I’m counting the weeks until September 9th! I can’t wait! <3
*Photographer credit goes to my cousin Kailyn Carreira*
Things are starting to get a little tighter but I was so happy I could still fit into one of my favorite Free People dresses yesterday!! This dress is good for my soul ❤️✌