Sorry, it’s been a while……
I finally hit 34 weeks today which technically means I have 3 weeks left until I reach 37 weeks and can have a fully cooked baby! EEEEK! He’s almost here! I know most first time moms come late so I am prepared for that even though my whole family thinks he will be here early. Let’s see, only God knows. 🙂
This past Monday, I finished my birth classes which I really enjoyed. I learned so much. I really feel prepared now, mentally and physically I think. 🙂 We all have a birth plan and we want it to go as planned, but I learned that we have to be opened minded because anything can happen so we shouldn’t over think it. My birth plan is to have a home water birth with the Midwives of NJ. It’s what I’ve always wanted, but I am open to what may happen. Maybe I won’t have the baby in the actual tub and that’s ok. The reason for me choosing a home birth is because, first, I don’t like hospitals, and second, when you’re in the hospital there is more of a chance of intervention. Having a midwife though actually really helps because they do become your advocate and they discuss everything with you prior to making “that” decision. You can still have a natural water birth or non water birth in the hospital with a midwife. (They basically replace your OBGYN.) Some people are not very familiar with how they work but I will say, it has been a great experience thus far. There is a lot more care involved, they are precautious with everything, they worry about your health and your baby’s health and most importantly they are there for you. The cool part is that most insurances cover home birth and midwives as your care providers which most people don’t realize. AND it’s so much more affordable believe it or not.
If you live in NJ and you’re interested in checking them out, go to www.midwivesofNJ.com to learn more! It’s worth taking a glance.
I know most people freak out when you say you’re having a home birth, but I honestly don’t let it get to me. If you educate yourself on the process of home birth and how safe it really is, you wouldn’t think it’s a bad idea. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, just like some women go straight to a C- section as their first choice because they think its better because they don’t feel the pain. To me, that sounds more scary than a natural birth so like I said, everyone feels a certain way and that’s ok. You have to do what’s best for you and it’s not fair to judge others because of it. It doesn’t make you a bad mom or a better mom, depending on what type of birth you have. The most important thing is that you get the baby out safely.
If you’re looking for some resources on natural home birth or water birth, the main thing that made me want to do a home birth was watching the documentary called: The Business of Being Born. Even if you’re totally against home birth you should really watch it. It is a great educational film. It really opened my eyes to the way this country treats women and their right to birth. I mean, you already know we’re like the only country in the world that doesn’t have industrialized paid maternity leave and if your job offers maternity leave, you’re lucky to even get a part of your salary AND you’re even more lucky if it’s longer than 6 weeks. That already says a lot about how women are treated here so think about it in the birth aspect too. You have to educate yourself and do your own research– it’s out there and it’s worth learning about.
It’s so funny because this is obviously my first time being pregnant and people are constantly trying to give you advice and it’s totally normal and some of it is great but most of it is annoying and unnecessary. We’ve all been there. I for one have done plenty of research on EVERYTHING from pregnancy, to labor, to birth, to having the baby the first year and breast feeding, and on how to properly latch your baby, different positions for better latching….etc. I know my shit. Pardon my french. I really do, so before you assume things and get all crazy telling me how I shouldn’t do this or that, calm down.
I’m not saying I know everything because I definitely don’t, but I think I know a lot more than I probably should at this point. That being said, what works for one baby may not work for another and vice versa so no matter how much knowledge you have, it doesn’t even matter because it might not even work for me or you. What I love about social media these days though is that there are so many mommy groups and forums that you can have open discussions about your issues and concerns which is really helpful for many women and I love that! It’s nice to feel we are not alone.
I hope that no one takes any of this the wrong way, you know I like to put it all out there. The point is that you have the right to do what you believe is best for you and your baby and sometimes some moms make other moms feel bad about their decisions and second guess themselves and I feel like that’s not fair. I have so many friends who have told me, so and so told me this and now I am not sure what to do. Well, my answer is, do what you think is best to do and if you like the other person’s recommendation do some research on it and maybe it will change your mind and if you still feel strongly about your decision then don’t feel bad…just do it. I can’t tell you how many people have actually tried to scare me about home birth. It’s horrible, stop it. Don’t do that to anyone, it’s mean. No matter how strongly you feel about it, it’s not fair to make someone feel like they are making the wrong decision. It’s all in God’s hands. He is our creator and he has blessed us with these wonderful babies and he made women’s bodies capable of giving birth. We are MADE to do this, so we CAN do this. So let’s DO this together and not bring each other down!
Well, hopefully this was interesting to you and if anyone has had a home birth, I’d love to hear about it! Hopefully next time I update I will have my maternity shoot pictures up! I am so excited about them–can’t wait to share them with you!